Steven I. Lanzet, LMFT, LCPC, CSAT-S
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Highly recommended resources for recovery:

Trusted Web Filter Programs


Follow links to take a sexual addiction assessment:
Sexual Addiction Screening Test (free)
Partner Sexuality Survey (free)
Sexual Dependency Inventory- Revised (SDI-R): Please call us at 208.908.0500.

12-Step Programs

Al-Anon
Alcoholics Anonymous
Narcotics Anonymous
Sexual Addicts Anonymous
Sexaholics Anonymous
Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous

Follow links to find national information:
12 Step Groups
For Addicts
Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)
P.O. Box 11910
Nashville, TN 37222-1910
866-424-8777
www.sa.org

http://cirrus.mail-list.com/professionals/43394349.html (telemeeting info)

Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA)
P.O. Box 70949
Houston, TX 77270
713-869-4902
www.sexaa.org
www.saacall.com (telemeeting info)

Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (SLAA)
P.O. Box 338
Norwood, MA 02062-0338
781-255-8825
www.slaafws.org
http://www.slaafws.org/meeting (telemeeting info)

Alcoholics Anonymous (AA)
AA World Services, Inc.
P.O. Box 459, Grand Central Station
New York, NY 10163
212-870-3400
www.alcoholics-anonymous.org

For Co-Addicts
S-Anon International Family Groups (S-Anon)
P.O. Box 111242
Nashville, TN 37222-1242
615-833-3152
www.sanon.org

Codependents of Sex Addicts (COSA)
P.O. Box 14537
Minneapolis, MN 55414
763-537-6904
www.cosa-recovery.org

Al-Anon
Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc.
1600 Corporate Landing Pkwy.
Virginia Beach, VA 23454-5617
888-425-2666
www.al-anon.org

Codependents Anonymous (CODA)
P.O. Box 33577
Phoenix, AZ 85067-3577
602-277-7991
www.codependents.org

For Couples
Recovering Couples Anonymous (RCA)
P.O. Box 11029
Oakland, CA
510-663-2312
www.recovering-couples.org

For Trauma Survivors
Survivors of Incest Anonymous (SIA)
World Service Office
P.O. Box 190
Benson, MD 21018
410-893-3322
www.siawso.org

Incest Survivors Anonymous (ISA)
P.O. Box 17245
Long Beach, CA 90807
562-428-5599

Adult Children of Alcoholics
P.O. Box 3216
Torrance, CA 90510
310-534-1815
www.adultchildren.org


Filters & Apps
Safe Browsing Filters

Intego
Content barrier software for Mac

SafeEyes
Mac, PC and iOS compatible software featuring filters and reports (compatible with the iPad and iPhone)

Mobicip
Alternative safe browser that also has a monitoring feature with various levels of protection. An accountability partner can log into Mobicip’s website and get reports on the user’s history.

WebChaver
Utilizes cutting-edge Covenant Eyes software, which logs all web activity and sends weekly report to head of the household or
another designated partner for monitoring. Covenant Eyes software is user-friendly, reliable, extremely difficult to bypass, and does not affect surfing speed nearly as much as a filter does. Additionally, the WebChaver Group program allows a designated monitor to oversee that his group members are indeed using the Covenant Eyes software.

Web Sense
Send all Internet traffic through networking site that will not allow sexual sites to be accessed.

Recovery Apps
iRecovery app for iPhone
Specifically designed for sex addiction recovery, but can be used for any addiction.

Trusted Web Filter Programs (links at bottom of page)

Trusted Web Filter ProgramsX3watch
Safe Eyes
X3watch

Internet Filters
NetNanny
CYBERsitter9
Cyber Patrol 
Max Project
Safe Eyes
Cyber Sentinel
Anti-Porn
Net Nanny
Covenant Eyes
Webwatcher


The Following Can be Downloaded free of charge:
Qustodio Parental Control
Naomi 

Internet Safety Organizations (I haven't checked all of these out so decide for yourself if they are useful)
I Look Both Ways
My Secure Cyberspace
Enough is Enough
WiredSafety.org
GetNetWise.org
Web Wise Kids
Net Family News
Common Sense Media
NetSmartz
Internet Industry Association

Covenant Eyes
NetNanny
CYBERsitter9
Cyber Patrol 
Max Project
Safe Eyes
Cyber Sentinel
Anti-Porn

The Following Can be Downloaded free of charge:
Naomi 

Excellent Recovery Resources

Facing the Shadow 
For people just beginning recovery from pornography or sexual addiction.

Recovery Zone
A guide for living within your healthiest limits.

Facing Heartbreak
A handbook for the partners of sexual addicts. Brand new and very needed!

Recovery Start Kit 
A guide for every single day in the first six months of recovery. Highly Recommended. Lower price available for clients. Please call us at 208.908.0500.

12 Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous
1.) We admitted that we were powerless over alcohol – that our lives had become unmanageable.
2.) Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
3.) Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God.
4.) Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
5.) Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
6.) Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
7.) Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings.
8.) Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.
9.) Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
10.) Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
11.) Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood God, praying only for knowledge of God’s will for us and the power to carry that out
12.) Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

* The Twelve Steps are reprinted with permission of Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc. Permission to reprint or adapt the Twelve Steps does not mean that AA has reviewed or approved the contents of this website nor that AA agrees with the views expressed herein.

12 Steps of Sexaholics Anonymous
1.) We admitted that we were powerless over lust – that our lives had become unmanageable.
2.) Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanit
3.) Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God.
4.) Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
5.) Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
6.) Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
7.) Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings.
8.) Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.
9.) Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
10.) Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
11.) Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood God, praying only for knowledge of God’s will for us and the power to carry that out.
12.) Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry this message to sexaholics and to practice these principles in all areas of our lives.

* Copyright 1989 SA Literature. Reprinted with permission of SA Literature. Permission to reprint does not imply SA affiliation or SA’s review or endorsement of this website.

12 Steps of S-Anon
1.) We admitted that we were powerless over sexual addiction – that our lives had become unmanageable.
2.) Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
3.) Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God.
4.) Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
5.) Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
6.) Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
7.) Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings.
8.) Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.
9.) Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
10.) Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
11.) Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood God, praying only for knowledge of God’s will for us and the power to carry that out.
12.) Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry this message to others and to practice these principles in all areas of our lives.

* Reprinted with permission of S-Anon Family Groups. Permission to reprint does not imply S-Anon affiliation or S-Anon’s review or endorsement of this website.

Characteristics of Sex & Love Addicts
The following are some characteristics of sex and love addiction that we have used to hide the progressive loss of self, which is the heart of the disease:

1.) Having few healthy boundaries, we become emotionally and sexually involved with people without knowing them.
2.) Out of fear of abandonment or loneliness, we stay in or return to painful, destructive relationships, always struggling to conceal our dependency. Real intimacy is rare, if it has ever existed.
3.) Fearing emotional or sexual deprivation, we compulsively pursue and involve ourselves with one relationship after another, sometimes having more than one sexual or emotional affair at a time.
4.) We confuse love with such things as neediness, intensity, pity, sexual or physical attraction, being a victim or being a rescuer.
5.) We feel empty or incomplete when we are alone. Though we fear both intimacy and commitment, we continually search for relationships or sexual contacts.
6.) We sexualize stress, guilt, loneliness, anger, fear and envy. We use sex or emotional dependence as substitutes for nurturing, support and understanding.
7.) We manipulate and control others with drama and sexuality.
8.) We become immobilized or seriously distracted by sexual or romantic obsessions and fantasies.
9.) We avoid personal responsibility by attaching ourselves to people who are emotionally unavailable.
10.) We stay in denial about our addiction to emotional intensity, romantic intrigue and compulsive sexual activity.
11.) To avoid feeling vulnerable, we may retreat from all intimate involvement, mistaking sexual and emotional anorexia for recovery.
12.) We assign magical qualities to others. We idealize and pursue them, then we blame them for not fulfilling our fantasies and expectations.

* The Characteristics are typically read at meetings of Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous.

Trusted Web Filter Programs
Intego
Content barrier software for Mac

SafeEyes
Mac, PC and iOS compatible software featuring filters and reports (compatible with the iPad and iPhone)

Mobicip
Alternative safe browser that also has a monitoring feature with various levels of protection. An accountability partner can log into Mobicip’s website and get reports on the user’s history.

WebChaver
Utilizes cutting-edge Covenant Eyes software, which logs all web activity and sends weekly report to head of the household or
another designated partner for monitoring. Covenant Eyes software is user-friendly, reliable, extremely difficult to bypass, and does not affect surfing speed nearly as much as a filter does. Additionally, the WebChaver Group program allows a designated monitor to oversee that his group members are indeed using the Covenant Eyes software.

Web Sense
Send all Internet traffic through networking site that will not allow sexual sites to be accessed.

Recovery Apps
iRecovery app for iPhone
Specifically designed for sex addiction recovery, but can be used for any addiction.

Safe Eyes
X3watch

Internet Filters
NetNanny
CYBERsitter9
Cyber Patrol 
Max Project
Safe Eyes
Cyber Sentinel
Anti-Porn
Net Nanny
Covenant Eyes
Webwatcher


The Following Can be Downloaded free of charge:
Qustodio Parental Control
Naomi 

Internet Safety Organizations (I haven't checked all of these out so decide for yourself if they are useful)
I Look Both Ways
My Secure Cyberspace
Enough is Enough
WiredSafety.org
GetNetWise.org
Web Wise Kids
Net Family News
Common Sense Media
NetSmartz
Internet Industry Association

Excellent Recovery Products

Facing the Shadow 
For people just beginning recovery from pornography or sexual addiction.

Recovery Zone
A guide for living within your healthiest limits.

Facing Heartbreak
A handbook for the partners of sexual addicts. Brand new and very needed!

Recovery Start Kit 
A guide for every single day in the first six months of recovery. Highly Recommended. Lower price available for clients. Please call us at 208.908.0500.

Transgender/ Transexual Resources 

Youth: 
Local-
Youth Alliance for Diversity - YAD www.yadiversity.org 
Weekly meetings on Sundays 4:00-6:00 pm
Sponsored by Boise GLBT Community Center 
Bannock Street between 8th Street and Capital Blvd., Idaho

Idaho Safe Schools Coalition
The mission of the Idaho Safe Schools Coalition is to help Idaho schools become safer places where every family can belong, where every educator can teach, and where every child can learn, regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity.
www.IdahoSSC.com IdahoSSC@gmail.com 

Northwest-
Trans Youth Family Allies
  www.imatyfa.org  
tyfainfo@yahoo.com
Non-profit organization developed to support transyouth and their families

Online-
Laura's Playground 
 www.lauras-playground.com
Online support site and resource guide
Teen online support meetings and teen chat room
Saturdays 1:00 pm Eastern and Sundays 7:00 pm Eastern

Adults: 
Local-
TSTG-Tri-States Transgender Group
Support and social interactions for the transgendered community.
Centered in Boise. The group meets twice a month at informal gatherings. 
P.O. Box 6691, Boise. 368-8669. nicol@micron.net.  

Kirsch Counseling Transition Group 
Therapeutic support for individuals on hormone replacement therapy.
This closed group meets every other Monday evening at 7:00 pm.
Please contact me for openings and prescreening requirements

Online:
Laura's Playground 
 www.lauras-playground.com
Online support site and resource guide 

Friends and Family: 
Local: 
PFLAG-Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays. 
Treasure Valley PFLAG meets on the second and fourth Wednesday of every month. 
Meets at Southminster Presbyterian Church, 6500 Overland Rd., Boise, ID.
For more information, please call Lucy at 867-5029
Meditations
Boise Counseling Center  Bookstore